Confidence.

I recently attended an conference held by an amazing society called ‘Women in Work’. The conference was on Confidence and 4 guest speakers shared their stories and thoughts on confidence within both the work place and for women in general. I came away feeling so incredibly inspired and motivated. And thought I would highlight some of the key things that I have taken away from the event. 

I feel like everyone struggles with confidence in their own way, mine is the fact that I constantly try limiting myself. 'Glass Ceilings' is something I really have struggled with. And for a long time I have restricted myself in the fear of not succeeding. I didn’t study law at university because I didn’t feel I was smart enough. I didn’t continue with dancing because I didn’t think I was good enough. 


I’m always putting that glass ceiling on myself and doubting my ability to do well. I still do it now, everyday when at uni, comparing myself to others who do better than me. I will say to myself no there’s no point. It’s a constant battle that I am even going through as I write this.  I have been placed with opportunity on my blog to further it in a way that I have always wanted to but the last 2 weeks all I have told myself is why should I because It will never be as good as others.
 
But I hadn’t even realised what I was doing? What’s stopping me from trying? Why do I not have enough faith in myself that I can do it? Because I know that everything I have done relating to my blog I have enjoyed, shouldn’t that be what its about? Enjoying what you are doing, being passionate about it and going for it with all your all. 


One of the guest speakers from the conference talked about this and how once she stepped out of her comfort zone and did something she really really wanted to do she had never felt so proud of herself. This really resonated with me. I sat and thought to myself I am more than capable? I got to uni! I just finished my 10,000 word dissertation and it was the most amazing think I have ever written – in my opinion haha. 

I think sometimes we place these limitations on ourselves, and every time our brain tells us ‘you cant do that’ ‘you’re not smart enough’ ‘who do you think you are doing something like that’ it eats away at our self confidence, when really we should be questioning these thoughts, and chucking them away. 


My mum has always said to me:

You can do anything you put your mind too.  

It has been constantly drilled into me, when I was a child, when I was struggling with my A-Levels and even when I broke down a month ago over my Dissertation. I have always said it to myself but never really sat and been like Ellie You can do anything you put your mind too. Because you can, if you believe in what your doing and your passionate about it you CAN do it. If the only thing stopping yourself is you, then you really need to question why!

The guest speakers spoke about alot of other aspects of confidence. But this is what really hit me, the idea that in alot of situations the only person stopping you from doing something you want to do is Yourself. and that is wrong, because you should be your biggest supported, grab every opportunity, if its what you want You go for it! 

'Women in Work' are holding another conference on Success in a couple of weeks time and I would strongly advise for anyone to grab a ticker, whether you feel like you need some motivation or just fancies coming to listen to guest speakers!